Kids………..They are going to give me all of my gray hair. I love them all so big, and we all try to protect our kids from well all the bad in the world, whether it be their hearts being broken or bad decisions. I believe I have mentioned before that Nowlin is on the spectrum somewhere, and very high functioning. Well yesterday Nowlin got in the car, and he said “momma, I got a star today” (a star is not good) I turned and looked at him and said “well…..why did you get a star buddy?”. He proceed to tell me about another child in class telling him to be quiet because he was counting aloud. In my head I feel like I know he probably had know idea he was counting aloud until it was brought to his attention and then by that time he was already frustrated. I asked him what happened and he told me the other kid kept saying to him “be quiet, be quiet, be quiet” over and over. Nowlin said it made him want to yell so he did. I said ok, well is that how we handle things when we feel upset or frustrated? He said no, but he was so mad he felt like he had to yell. A little part of me had to giggle and throw a party on the inside, because it has taken 5 years for me to get this child to say WHY he felt or WHY he did something. Although he got in trouble at school I was having a celebration on the inside for communication goals.
So something kinda giant happened yesterday. Nowlin also never really plays with anyone on our street outside of our direct neighbors, which is fine by me….lol he is always real close to home. There are two little boys that live about 3-4 houses down (i know that’s not very far) and they were riding their bikes home and Nowlin yelled”can they play” (one of the boys is in his class)? Their momma said yes, and they played here for a little bit. Then the little boy asked if Nowlin could go to his house to play. What was I going to say no? I mean Nowlin wanted to go, he was having fun, he was outside playing and not playing video games, so I let him go on his bike riding down the street my stomach was in knots. Only in knots for the small fact that I was actually letting him ride his bike in the street without an adult. I mean ugh he is my baby and he doesn’t always pay attention and what if something happens? Dustin was like “Cris, let him go play with his friend he is right there and you know the kids mom!”. Dustin drove down there after about 30 min of the kids playing to make sure they were good, Nowlin told Dustin he would be home at 6:30 hahahaha (he hears me tell his sisters what time to be home all the time ). Nowlin came home and he was so happy, he had so much fun. Dustin told Nowlin “I’m glad you got to play with your friend today”. Nowlin replied “that’s not my friend” Dustin told him “why would you say that? He invited you to his house to play and you went to play, I’m pretty sure that makes you guys friends.” Nowlin replied “well we don’t play at school.”. Dustin asked him if something happened and Nowlin said no, that they had so much fun playing. Here’s the thing guys, it is so difficult to explain “friend” ore anything that has a very in depth definition to Nowlin. I mean he does not get it. This is our next goal I guess “friend goals” It is so hard he just does not understand and when I ask him what a friend is to him he doesn’t really give me an answer, which tells me he doesn’t really know or understand. Ughhhh and this is why he always says he has no friend……..he has friends he just doesn’t understand or know what it looks like. #makingfriends #friends #goals #parentingadventures #parenting
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